In life, we start off as innocent babies who are new to the world, searching and looking for anything to stimulate our minds on many levels. As we continue to grow and encounter the different phases of matriculation, things begin to make sense to us, we begin to find our niche.
As such, with age and maturity comes more things on the to-do list and this thing call “time” is not so much on your side anymore. Things like a successful career, relationships with others, spiritual growth, good health and many more come into play. How do we balance these things? How do we combine it all to have what we would consider “the perfect life”? For many us, this is very difficult as some of these categories have so many underlining variables that must be taken into consideration. Variables that could hurt a situation in a matter of seconds, destroy everything you have done if they are not planned for accordingly. I want you to think about the last three words of that sentence: planned for accordingly.
Life is a journey filled with a series of experiences that help us grow, develop and mature as an individual. As children, we dream of growing up fast, being on our own and away from our parents to establish a sense of freedom and self-motivation. However, for example, as a senior in college, you realize just how much those things your parents, relatives and older siblings told you when you were younger. Things like “ you have all your life to work”, stop growing up so fast, enjoy life and live in the moment.” They knew one day there would be time in which things may not be so easy anymore, things may not be as clear as they were at the age of 5, 10 and 16 for example.
All in all, the “senior college student” is a great example of dealing with the “fear of the unknown”. Being that I am a senior myself, as seniors, we have spent great deal of time, energy, blood, sweat and tears in working towards our college diploma. We came to college eager and excited freshman year but by the end of sophomore year, we were burnt out and ready to graduate. However, the funny thing is, as graduation becomes closer, the stress and fear of the unknown awakens you to so many scary situations. The “master-plan” that you thought would be perfect has gained a few bumps and bruises along the way, creating gapping holes in your thought process of what you want to do. The idea of leaving your fun and exciting undergraduate experience to either going to work, military, grad school, getting married or starting a family for example are all realistic things now. They are no longer those things you consider “ in the near future”. You often think back to how life was once so simple but its not anymore and depending on who you talk to, he or she offers different advice from a specific perspective, making the situation even more difficult.
Thus, the only way to deal with the fear of the unknown, whether as a college student, adult or child, you must be willing to embrace the future and what new opportunities it may hold for you. Remember, as I mentioned earlier, life is a journey filled with a series of experiences that help us to grow, develop and mature as an individual. What I did not mention previously is what I will leave you with now: Life is an on-going journey filled with a series of experiences. On-going which implies past, present and future experiences that will take place as you continue to grow in the society. After all, Denis Waitley once said, “ A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar and the unknown.
I’ll leave you to think about some other great quotes about the future.
“ It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” —William Shakespeare
“The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time.” —Abraham Lincoln