I decided to read a book by Richard Carlson entitled, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all small stuff”. I’m not quite done with the book yet, but I would recommend this book for anyone who thinks life is overwhelming and cannot catch a break. This book gives helpful tips and suggestions on how not to let small things drive you crazy.
In my personal life, I have a lot of things going on from interning, school work, to having a social life, to being involved on campus and the list goes on.
Nevertheless, sometimes, we spend hours thinking about one little situation, person or difficult time. Truth is, it can become annoying. It can drive us crazy. We spend seconds, minutes, hours and days thinking about what we could have or should have done.
Well, it’s all small stuff. Think about it, what was one thing last year that worried you so much, thinking you would never overcome the situation? Well, is that one thing still present? Nine times out of ten, you can’t think of one. Typically, you lose sight of the bigger picture, focusing on the negative and ignoring other people who might otherwise be able to help us. You tend to blow small things out of proportion, allowing these things to dictate the rest of your day.
For example, say a stranger cuts in front of you in a long line. Instead of letting the situation go, you hold on to the anger thinking you are justified in your action while that person continues go on through his or her day. You play out an imaginary confrontation in your mind rather than simply letting it go. Have you ever broke in line knowing that you made another person mad? What are the chances of you seeing this person again? Will you go to jail over not doing anything about the situation and staying mad? If you responded “no” to these questions, then why stress over a little situation? Instead, think about what the person might’ve been going through or let he or she get into a confrontation with someone else over cutting in line. Ultimately, saving you the trouble.
In addition, in life, you are meant to have things to do. If you didn’t have anything to do, you would not have a life. We convince ourselves that if we do everything on the to-do list, we would calm down, be relaxed and happy. In actuality, this will not happen. Here’s why! Life goes on and there will be a lot of things to bring you down during your journey in life. Therefore, the next time you have a to-do list with the hopes of accomplishing every task on the list, remember the things will just be replaced with other things that you will have to do.
Thus, take it easy. It’s life and everything will pass over sooner than you think. Remember, don’t stress over little situations in life and they are all little situations.
Now, I have a few questions that I think everyone should think about.
1. If this were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you were about to do today?
2. What would people say about you at your funeral?
3.What do you believe stands between you and complete happiness?
4.When will you be good enough for you? Do you ever think you will be perfectly happy with all of your flaws? If not, why are you stressing about it?
As I continue to read this book, be on the look out for further discussions from the Krimson Khronicles. Until the next time, ponder on these thoughts and ideas in your life.